I never thought that embracing my natural hair would make me target of disrespect comments from my own kind. Here I am being called names by another woman whom from what I observed was wearing microbraids. She was African American just like me and I’m assuming she had a relaxer, but we both know that her hair is similar to mine if her hair wasn’t relaxed. I was in such a shock that she went to the lengths of sticking her head out the window to scream those obscenities that I didn’t even know how to respond to them.

I continued walking and thought to myself. Where is this world going? Why are black women so conditioned by society that they’ve forgotten their roots? Is it really that hard to accept? The true image of who we are and where we came from. Our hair as well as our skin is what makes us unique and sets us apart from the rest, and now that I’ve learned to embrace it I find myself being harassed by other African Americans.

This really angered me, but it actually saddened me even more. Yes, I was insulted and I was upset for I am human, but I love my natural hair and no one can change how I feel about it, but why do we do this to our own sistas? Who are we to really judge women whom choose to embrace the natural beauty of their true texture? What is so wrong with being true to who you really are?

I have no issue with women whom relax their hair. I relaxed my hair in the past and I blog about the care of relaxed tresses as well as natural ones. I would never down a woman for relaxing her hair, because it’s her choice and no one should make her feel bad, wrong, or inferior for doing so.

Natural women: Have you ever been a victim of harassment due to the texture of your natural hair from other African American women?

Relaxed women: Have you ever harassed a woman for having natural hair?